Come to our in-person networking event and understand how we can support LGBT+ asylum seekers
On Thursday 29th September we make our return to in-person and online networking evenings, with 'Finding a safe place to live', hosted by the amazing Trowers and Hamlins. Our guest speakers are Moud Goba from Micro Rainbow and Thelma Ndaula from Say It Loud Club, who will highlight ways we can support their work.
Moud Goba, National Manager from Micro Rainbow will talk about the work of Micro Rainbow and the helpline they have launched for LGBTQI people fleeing Afghanistan. You can hear from people who have stayed in their safe houses: https://youtu.be/P_JELhXTHiI
Thelma Ndaula, Housing Project Manager from Say It Loud Club will talk about the club which is a community for LGBTQ+ asylum seekers and refugees in the UK. The Say It Loud Club was founded by HouseProud friend Aloysius Ssali , find out more about his story here: https://www.sayitloudclub.org/about-us
Register for free here:
https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/finding-a-safe-place-to-live-tickets-427110437817
Please arrive between 6pm and 6.30pm. After hearing from our guests, you will have an opportunity to network with people from across the Housing Sector over light refreshments.
Where:
Trowers & Hamlins LLP, 3 Bunhill Row, London, EC1Y 8YZ.
Her Royal Highness Queen Elizabeth II
The Queen dedicated her life to duty and service. We send our deepest condolences to the Queen’s family and all those in mourning.
You can read an interesting article on her support for LGBT+ policies here:
We'll be at the National Housing Summit in Birmingham on the 12th and 13th September
...and if you make your way to stand 13, you can discuss our Pledge Project, make sure you're on our membership list and link up with us for projects! If you're looking at starting your own region of HouseProud, we can take all your details too... see you then!
Partner with us for the Pledge
As we came out of lockdown, we realised that the HouseProud Pledge was growing at such a rate and with increasing interest from housing providers, it made sense to look for a partner to help deliver the Pledge more widely.
This would continue the amazing work so far - which aims to create a step change in how LGBT+ residents are treated by their landlords. With the White Paper and regulation encouraging and mandating more resident engagement, we are sure that the pledge will continue to grow.
If your organisation would like to partner with us, please read our partnership proposal here and return it to us as outlined in the document
It's South Asian Heritage Month
What is South Asian Heritage Month?
South Asian Heritage Month (SAHM) is now in its third year.
The month was established to honour and celebrate South Asian history and culture. It is an opportunity for everyone to appreciate the countries in South Asia and learn new things about their heritage.
When is South Asian Heritage Month?
South Asian Heritage Month is celebrated between 18 July-17 August.
The Indian Independence Act received royal assent from King George VI on 18 July 1947, and the Radcliffe Line, which divides India, West Pakistan, and East Pakistan, was published on 17 August, by Cyril Radcliffe.
Which countries are in South Asia?
Here is a list of the eight countries that make up South Asia:
Afghanistan
Bangladesh
Bhutan
India
Maldives
Nepal
Pakistan
Sri Lanka
What is the theme for South Asian Heritage Month 2022?
This year’s theme ‘Journeys of Empire’ looks at the history of empires founded from the 1300s through to the journey of families migrating to the UK following WWII.
This year also marks two significant anniversaries taking place in 2022, connecting South Asian people with their past and future:
The 75th anniversary of the partition of Pakistan and India in 1947
The 50th anniversary of the expulsion of Uganda’s Asian minority, in 1972 by President Idi Amin.Throughout this year’s SAHM organisations can ‘Celebrate, Commemorate, and Educate’, by connecting people with South Asian culture through the ‘Celebration’ of arts, culture and heritage, the ‘Commemoration’ of South Asian history and through ‘Education’ of better understanding of the diversity in the UK today.
This year also sees SAHM celebrations taking place in real-life following virtual activities and events over 2020 and 2021. This is a positive move forward and in-person events will increase engagement and opportunities to showcase the wealth of culture.
When did South Asian Heritage Month start?
The first South Asian Heritage Month event was conceptualised and launched by the South Asian community in the UK in July 2019 at the House of Commons.
The Grand Trunk Project, The Partition Commemoration Campaign, City Sikhs, and Faiths Forum for London worked together to establish the initiative.
Why is South Asian Heritage Month important?
Along with providing learning opportunities for others, the month enables people of South Asian heritage to reclaim their history and identity by sharing their own stories and experiences.
Source: Inclusive Employers
What Asian Heritage Month Means to Me
Puja Mitra, Event Co-ordinator, HouseProud
I was born and brought up in India and travelled to the UK only when was I in my mid-twenties in 2011. I was newly married and was bit excited bit nervous and without a job at that time. I re-discovered my identity at that time and not all of it was joyful. I always thought I was a Bengali woman until I left my home country but realised it meant nothing in the town I lived back then, I was called “Asian” and few years later “Brown” and to be honest, now, I love calling myself a “proud Brown woman” who was not afraid to be herself at the end.
South Asian Heritage Month is very important to me because it means I do not feel uncomfortable or worried to talk about my country and the culture, how proud I am about 15th August which is Independence Day in India and how much I love wearing saree, traditional dress of Bengali women. It also gives me power and platform to talk about how my grandparents (both my mum and dad’s side) became refugees after Partition of India and Pakistan in 1947, they were from Bangladesh and it means that I have been subject to intergenerational trauma.
But what I love most about this month is to learn from stories of my colleagues and friends and their friends from South Asian region – what it meant to grow up here in the UK, stories of courage, kindness, resilience and so much of history in general.
I look forward to many more of years of joyous celebration with friends, colleagues and allies.
To know more you might want to click on the below links:
Links to Events:
Links to few recipes:
LGBT+ Links:
You might also want to check out Hidayah LGBTQI+ - The Leading Queer Muslim Charity. They hold regular online book clubs in a safe environment. Or GIN a sociable networking and support group for the LGBTQIA Community of Indian origin and their friends and allies.
The HouseProud Pledge
It's been over two years since we launched the HouseProud Pledge. Since then over 50 social housing providers have reached out to us about the scheme and over 30 have gone on to sign up, with 7 achieving Pledge Pioneer status and 2 getting to Pledge Plus. The Pledge is now a significant tool, ensuring that LGBTQ+ people get a better and inclusive housing service from their landlords. We would like to say a big thank you for your amazing achievements in making this happen.
With this success also comes the need to review how the Pledge is operating. We’re determined to make sure that the scheme continues to go from strength to strength and can develop and grow. We want to particularly focus on how we involve residents more, and ensure that applicants are supported on the journey to be awarded Pledge status. We’re also keen to assess whether HouseProud, with its volunteer steering committee, can best offer this support and continue with robust oversight. Our review will set out a plan on how best to achieve this, and we will update the scheme in Autumn 2022.
If you are an organisation wanting to sign up to the Pledge scheme, we still want to hear from you. Please register your interest by sending an email to HouseProud_LGBT@outlook.com. We’ll send you an initial confirmation, and then contact you in the Autumn with the next steps.
If you are an existing organisation in the scheme who has been awarded Pledge status, we’ll contact you regarding the process for reassessment in the Autumn. In the meantime please continue to use the award status and be proud of the achievement.
If you are working towards the pledge but have not yet submitted your evidence for assessment, we will contact you in Autumn regarding the process for submission.
We would like to thank you all for your support, and please look out for further announcements in the future!
The HouseProud Management Committee
International Women's Day 2022
#breakthebias - our week of blogs
This International Women’s Day and Women’s History Month we're sharing the lived experiences of women and LGBT+ women in the workplace and in housing. We've explored a range of areas where women face discrimination and stereotypes, providing links to resources to help #BreakTheBias
6. How can we support our staff and residents who have disabilities?
by Lynne Nicholls
Events Officer – HouseProud Vice Chair of the Board - WATMOS
The disabled rights movement shares many parallels with the LGBT+ movement. It took protests by disabled people to force the government to act, leading to the landmark introduction of the Disability Discrimination Act 1995. Thisbmade it illegal to discriminate against disabled people in connection with employment, the provision of goods, facilities and services or the disposal or management of premises.
In 2010 the Equality Act defined disability as 'a physical or mental impairment which has a substantial and long-term adverse effect on your ability to carry out normal day- to-day activities' and placed a duty on employers to make “reasonable adjustments”.
https://ukdhm.org/v2/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/B5-Disability-Time-Line-NHS-North-West.pdf
The ONS found the negative social impacts of the pandemic have been greater for disabled people. Among people who indicated that their wellbeing had been affected by Covid-19, 46% of disabled people said the pandemic had a negative impact on their mental health. This compares with 29% for non-disabled people.
We have a long way to go to #BreakTheBias surrounding disability, not just as employers but in the services, we provide and how we provide them.
In Housing we have a greater imperative to act as we provide people’s homes as well as employment. And let’s not forget 8 out of 10 disabled people acquired their disability, so it can affect anyone at any time: anyone of our staff, residents, or customers.
Infographic from Purple Changing the Conversation
As human beings we have more than one identity, I identify as a daughter, wife, Yorkshire lass, Carer, Christian, Cis gendered, Bisexual, Dyslexic and Disabled. These identities all combine to make me who I am, how I experience the world/workplace, and the privileges I have.
‘The whole is greater than the sum of the parts’
Aristotle
My experiences of being a young carer, managing diverse teams, being neurodivergent and having invisible disabilities have certainly allowed me to see bias first hand. For example, why does it take a Pandemic for business and the Housing Sector to see the value in flexible working and reasonable adjustments?
Reasonable Adjustments
Pre-pandemic it was nearly always a battle to get agreement for staff to have the reasonable adjustments they needed to enable them to fulfil their role without a detriment to their health. Whether that be through long protracted processes or a belief that the organisation knew better than the employee what they needed. Often a little creative thinking and a flexible interpretation of the policy was all that was required.
As we return to ‘the new normal’ please take a people centric approach, listen to your staff, and really consider why an adjustment cannot be made. If the answer, is we have not made this type of adjustment before, then that is not a good enough reason to deny it.
Invisible Illnesses
Some conditions at the point of diagnosis as considered disabilities such as Cancer, HIV and MS. Other conditions can be considered a disability under the Equality Act 2010 if they have a 'substantial' and 'long-term' negative effect on your ability to do normal daily activities. This can include invisible conditions such as asthma, arthritis, lupus, and endometriosis.
Endometriosis affects 1 in 10 women; it takes years to diagnosis and there is no cure. I have lived with this condition for years and often the best you can do is manage the symptoms such as extreme pain which can be as painful as experiencing a heart attack.
When you introduce your menopause policy, extend that to supporting women in what comes before. For example, what is your organisation doing to address period poverty for your staff and residents?
https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/blog/period-poverty-persist-see-it-shameful-womens-problem
Neurodiversity
Dyslexia is recognised as a disability within the meaning of the legislation because individuals with dyslexia are substantial disadvantage within the workplace when compared to those who are not dyslexic.
My personal journey with dyslexia has been one of shame, before with the help of organisations such as Made by Dyslexia, I embraced it as my superpower.
This shame was reinforced in my early career by a manager who insisted that I write the flipchart in our group and when I fed-back for the group, they proceeded to point out my spelling mistakes in front of the whole conference. From then on, I did not always disclose I was a dyslexic at work as I was worried it would affect my career.
Has your organisation reviewed your policies and processes through a neurodivergent lens if not, why not? You are missing out on a range of in-demand skills.
https://www.madebydyslexia.org/The-Dyslexic-Dynamic-Report.pdf
Physical disabilities
My mum has a physical disability, which means we have always had to carefully plan to go outside to ensure where we were going was accessible, including public transport and other public services.
As employers we have a duty to ensure our workplaces are accessible, however, if they are accessible, it is often only in certain areas. I knew of one occasion when a colleague arrived at the office and could only go as far as the lobby. Clearly more needs to be done in our workplaces and when building homes as there is a shortage of accessible homes in both the private and social housing sectors.
How is your organisation addressing these issues?
Diverse Teams
The benefit of diverse teams is well documented, and this has been recognised by the Housing Federation in the 2020 Code of Governance. The code is explicit in the board's role in taking an active lead in committing to equality of opportunity, diversity, and inclusion in all of the organisation’s activities as well as in its own composition.
How does your organisation's board measure up?
"With great power comes great responsibility"
Various - St Luke, Theodore Roosevelt, Voltaire, Spiderman
We have the power to change the experience both in the workplace and in people’s homes, I urge you and your organisation to act now and #BreakTheBias.
5. Head Coverings
By Puja Mitra
Events Officer, HouseProud
Inclusion and Diversity Lead, Ark
Women wear head coverings, for a variety of reasons from religious, traditional, safety and for fashion.
https://edition.cnn.com/style/article/headscarf-brief-history/index.html
My mother-in-law who lives in India started wearing hijab a few years after I got married. Since that time, I have heard and seen few people judge her and make comments which now I realise are clearly micro-aggression. I reflected deeply about this on World Hijab Day in 2022 following reading a powerful blog from a colleague.
As someone who has been married to a Muslim family and as part of my role as D&I professional, I have found that women of colour who wear headscarves are often discriminated in society and workplace and data supports the same.
In my journey of being an ally to women who wear headscarves, I have also found women who are from LGBT+ community who wear headscarves, face bias, micro-aggressions and other forms of discrimination.
These blogs and talks helped inform me of the lived experiences that women who wear head coverings face.
I urge you to read, listen and consider - are you and your workplace doing enough to #breakthebias?
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Because I Wear Hijab People Don't Expect Me To Be Queer
https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/real-life/because-i-wear-hijab-people-don-t-expect-me-to-be-queer/
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Wearing a niqab and identifying with queerness is not a paradox by Hafsa Lodi
https://gal-dem.com/wearing-a-niqab-and-identifying-with-queerness-is-not-a-paradox/
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What does my headscarf mean to you? | Yassmin Abdel-Magied
4. Including Trans Women in the Workplace
by Sophie Collinge
Trans Officer, HouseProud
Peabody
This International Women’s Day is an opportunity to reflect on the world we strive for, one which is diverse, equitable and inclusive. As a trans woman I have always felt passionate about those goals and how they can be achieved for all people who have had experiences of being a woman.
Knowing I was a trans woman was the easy part, and something my innate nature reminded me of daily. But to transition was a far more difficult undertaking. In large part this was because for a long time Trans people lacked the visibility in society to know whether diversity extended to them, equitability included them, and inclusiveness would be offered to them. Negatively impacting my career in Housing due to transitioning was a real fear.
It was this time, the first week of March, four years ago that I sat in a large waiting room nervously wondering what was going to happen in the next few hours. This was not my appointment at the Gender Clinic, that had been scheduled for the next week, this was the Old Bailey and I there for jury service. In a rapid series of events, I was made to cancel my appointment but then be rejected for the trial and the rest of jury service anyway. This major setback would be for me the catalyst to transitioning at work, and within a month I had achieved that.
The Housing Association I work for, worked closely with me and by every measure my transition at work was a success. But up until that point I had no idea that it would be. While companies have progressed a long way since 2018 with a focus on accepting and accommodating for Trans and Non-binary people, a policy or set of practices does not complete the full picture. A company needs to both externally and internally show that it welcomes and provides for Trans and Non-binary staff. This means easily available to read policies, related intranet and website content, seminars on inclusivity and recognition of the LGBT+ staff contributions.
‘What helped me was being able to tell my team in my own way and when I was ready. As a Repairs Operative one thing that was challenging was finding safety gear and uniforms suitable for women another was not having a clear transitioning at work policy. ‘
Repairs Operative – G15 organisation
‘Having the support of the LGBT+ and gender networks really helped make the process of telling people I was transitioning at work be less daunting. But not having staff, managers and HR trained in using the policy meant it was a challenging at times.’
Housing Support Officer – G15 organisation
Trans and Non-binary staff may not want to or be ready to disclose this fact about themselves. Trans women in particular may feel vulnerable if having transitioned in a previous company to making it public knowledge again that they are Trans. This means that companies must take steps to be inclusive and show that they are welcoming from the beginning, and not wait until a member of staff declares they are changing their gender status or choosing to transition in the workplace.
If we’re bringing people into a space to have a collective mission to work together, then we need to get to know people more individually and say, ‘what is it that you need to succeed in this environment?’.
For the Trans and Non-binary people entering the workforce in 2022 I hope they don’t need a significant event like I had to make the gender change they desire in the workplace. For them I hope they just need to take a moment to check the company Welcome Pack to then know that it will be fine.
What can your housing organisation do?
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Work with your LGBT+ network and/or gender networks, trans and non-binary staff and external organisation such as Gendered Intelligence when reviewing and developing a transitioning at work policy.
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Have a transitioning at work policy and ensure it includes non-binary identities.
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Ensure the policy has guidance for staff, line manager and HR with a glossary of terms.
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If you have a dress code policy, ensure its inclusive of all gender identities
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Ensure that HR and anyone who manages staff are trained on the policy and guidance.
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Have specific training for all staff on gender diversity.
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Look to other sectors such as the great work being done by Trans in the City
For some further helpful information on transgender inclusion in the workplace watch:
3. Writing an inclusive menopause in the workplace policy.
by Jamie Hickling
Co-chair HouseProud
Area Manager - WLM, West London Mission
I wanted to think about what we can do in the workplace to support people through the perimenopause and beyond. In particular, I wanted to listen to experiences of women, trans and non-binary people and those across queer communities with a view to contributing to our organisation’s first policy on menopause in the workplace.
“I felt alone, but actually now the conversation is becoming more open there’s an opportunity to become more of level playing field for everyone so that doesn’t need to happen to someone else.”
“Talking to your Mum is not always possible for queer people and there are different experiences across class and culture. Reaching out for help is hard but after talking, I felt so much better. ”
“The housing sector is not always like a corporate office and sanitary provision can vary from building to building.”
Just a handful of great blogs, podcasts and other platforms:
Effinhormones.com: There is no one face of the menopause
Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause
“I’m intersex, I don’t get periods and I’m going through the menopause”
I can roll off that ‘not all women bleed, and not everyone who bleeds is a woman’ almost in rote after spending ending a lot of time being lucky enough to discuss this. I need to remember that for some this is a large concept to get their heads around if they haven’t had the opportunity for the same conversations- so having time to think through this and space to ask questions is key to getting any support right across organisation.
Gay and bi women, trans and non-binary people must be included into the fabric of any workplace policy (not only because it is law- but because it’s the right thing to do, please don’t think of this as an ‘add on’). To be inclusive, people should not have to make brave leap to ‘disclose’ their menopause, but have the structures in place where it’s clear that we are an organisation where it’s OK to talk about your menopause.
What can we do…
Menopause is a health issue, yet only a third of people tell their employer and seek support in the workplace- being far more likely to tell line managers and colleagues rather than occupational health or HR. Sending a clear message that your organisation is open and supportive can be the biggest factor to start conversations within teams.
Understanding that there is ‘no one face of the menopause’ means the policy has to be clear to all and relevant to those that need guidance on the best supportive approach.
Here's what I recommend
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Create a culture open to talking about all life events
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If you don’t have one, write a supportive policy
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Properly fund research
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Review facilities provision across any gendered spaces
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Great resources for developing your approach to Menopause in the workplace:
https://menopauseintheworkplace.co.uk/articles/how-to-write-your-menopause-policy/
Talking with staff about the menopause: Menopause at work - Acas
I hope to share our policy when complete and keep the conversation going.
2. Caring Responsibilities
by Dewbien Plummer
Diversity and Inclusion Lead, HouseProud
Head of Housing Strategy, Royal Borough of Greenwich
A few weeks ago, my first child turned 18. I found out I was pregnant on my first day as a Housing Officer. Mortified, I hid it at first, terrified they’d think they made a mistake hiring me. When I did eventually tell my boss, he was great about it. Even so, I worked myself half to death worried that I’d lose my job. I remember being heavily pregnant & going in on a Saturday to catch up with work. I forgot to display my parking permit & my car was clamped and towed away. It cost me about £250. Eventually my body said no more, and I stopped working.
After six weeks of bed rest, high blood pressure & an emergency c-section, baby arrived healthy and well.
For a long time, I was ashamed of that experience. Why did I feel it necessary to push myself so hard? Was I imagining things?
I got my answer about 3 years later. When I first came back to work after maternity leave, I unsuccessfully applied for an internal promotion. Years later the hiring manager – a mother – came to me and apologised. She confessed that she had not given me the role, despite me being the best candidate, because when she had first returned to work after having a baby she had really struggled. She assumed it would be the same for me.
“One of the most important things to say about the gender data gap is that it is not generally malicious, or even deliberate. Quite the opposite. It is simply the product of a way of thinking that has been around for millennia and is therefore a kind of not thinking. A double not thinking, even: men go without saying, and women don’t get said at all.”
― Caroline Criado Pérez, Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men
When men & women first enter the workforce, the wage gap is minimal. But once the first child is born, the wage gap continues upward on a steady trajectory, finding it’s resting place as the gender pension gap (37.9% in 2019/20 in the UK, twice the level of the gender pay gap that year – 15.5%).
‘Either the mother commits to the working practices of dominant masculinity, that is a boundless time schedule, a suppressed personal life and a reduced investment in care, reinforcing what some mothers feel is a destructive work paradigm, or they must accept lower-status work. Most mothers who stay in work in the UK choose the latter option’ (Cahusac and Kanji, 2014).
Gender wage gap by time to/since birth of first child Source: BHPS 1991-2008 and Understanding Society 2009-15 presented in (Costa Dias et al., 2018)
During their careers, women tend to work in lower paid jobs/sectors, have more time out of the workplace and require more flexible working arrangements to meet their caring responsibilities. Part-time working has been proven to have a detrimental effect on career progression.
Globally, on average, women take on three times as much unpaid care work as men. Unpaid work includes caring for children, other dependants, and the household. (ActionAid, 2017) This extra work leads to ‘time poverty’, negatively impacting women’s health, well-being, and earning capacity.
It’s no surprise then women report feeling they need to ‘behave like men to get on’, downplaying their caring responsibilities to avoid stigmatisation. In some studies women reported being pushed towards or held in devalued roles, due to a perceived fit with their gender-stereotypical skillsets.
Women and certain racial ethnic groups from working class backgrounds can face a distinct double disadvantage fitting the image of an ‘archetypal’ candidate and describe that the process of suppression and assimilation as exhausting, carrying significant emotional cost. Women from the LGBT+ communities also face additional pressures as carers as there are often additional barriers to accessing support.
The overarching theme in all the studies is the conflict between the way that we work (e.g., long hours), and our caring responsibilities. The pandemic has changed the reality of working life for all and made a way for try something different. Enabling women, (everybody), to fulfil their full potential in the workplace, is something we should all expect as standard.
Caring work is the backbone of society and allows all other work to continue. Although this post is about women with children, caring responsibilities can affect any of us at any age and come in many different forms; relatives, pets, plants and most importantly self. Do your part to #BreakTheBias.
Action organisations can take
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As an organisation, review your policies through a carer’s lens are they fit for purpose, if not changed them.
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Report on your pay gaps for gender, disability, ethnicity, LGBT+ and look at it intersectional; that way you have better data to address inequities.
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Set up carers' networks so that people have a place to seek support and you have a sounding board.
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Promote organisations that support carers.
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Ask your Boards, Executives, Managers, Team leaders to Read ‘The Power of Diverse Thinking’ by Mathew Syed who extols the virtue of cognitive diversity. Cognitive diversity, differences in perspective, insights, experiences & thinking styles, is different but related to demographic diversity (gender, race, age etc).
1. Starting OUT in Housing
by Harriet Proffitt
Young People's Officer, HouseProud
Lead Project Manager, Notting Hill Genesis
I started working in housing when I was 24, the same year I finally came out to my parents. I’d come out to some friends in my 20s and finally built up the courage to tell my family when I had returned from travelling.
Starting my first real office job threw up some complications on whether I had to carry on leading a double life again or if I felt comfortable to be my true authentic self. I’m sure every young gay person goes through the same struggle of feeling like you’re living with this secret which makes you different to everyone else. Every teenager spends their high school lives trying to fit in and be “normal”, but when does this end? Do we all carry this on for the rest of our lives? School drama changes into office politics, still trying to blend in and do what you can to further your career and “fit in”. Don’t get me wrong of course there are people who break this mould. As a gay person I still look to these loud figures who are so out and proud and don’t seem to care what anyone thinks of them. I think surely this is exhausting, how do they find the strength to be like that?
By the time I began my career in housing, and working with colleagues of varying ages and cultures in such a diverse workplace, I was unsure of whether I should come out. One of the women I worked with was a similar age to me and had similar interests, so we struck up the beginning of a workplace friendship. One day at the printer she complimented me on the perfume I was wearing and how nice it was. She then quickly remarked “Don’t worry I’m not a lesbian though!” at this point I froze; this was my moment to say “Well I am” but instead I decided in that split second to laugh along and mumble something along the lines of "Oh yeah, good".
After this I distanced myself from her and decided to keep my personal life personal.
Probably about a year later I became closer with some of my teammates, these women were all in their 40s or 50s. I looked to them as mother figures, like my aunties. One of them even used to bring me in some food if she knew I had spent all my pay too quickly. We all used to sit and have lunch together, me enjoying all their stories and office gossip. One lunch I was the focus of their attention, they knew I loved to socialise and spend time with my friends at the weekend. One of them asked if there was a man on the scene? Here again was my opportunity to open up and reveal myself. Instead, I laughed it off and said my love life was non-existent. Many months later again the topic came up, this time in a one-on-one lunch with one of my closest team colleagues, who was my favourite ‘auntie’. When we were out for one of our lunches, she asked me how my non-existent love life was and if I had a man yet. I thought this is it now or never, I managed to finally mumble the words “Well actually I’m gay, i don’t like men” She took a moment and said “Well never would’ve guessed that! So, is there a woman on the scene??” and carried on as normal, just wanting to know more about my life.
After this it built my confidence to feel comfortable to open up to more people in the office, sharing my true self with them but these were people I considered my friends at work. I still found it hard to open up to those who I saw just as colleagues. When I moved offices, I was lucky enough that my manager was part of the LGBTQI+ community, she was getting married that year to her partner and she wasn’t afraid to share this with colleagues. Seeing her be confident enough in herself to share every aspect of her life with those she worked with, not just her work friends. Gave me the confidence to do the same. Its not always easy and some days I don’t feel like sharing anything with anyone.
Some colleagues have reacted in a way which disappoints me and makes me distance myself from them. But now as I’ve reached my 30s and moved away from my turbulent 20s, I’ve realised how damaging it is not to accept and love who you are. I’ve finally understood now when friends have said to me in the past about me receiving a homophobic reaction to coming out, that’s it’s not a reflection on me but of them.
If you are starting out in Housing, Housing Diversity Network have a great mentoring programme that runs from September to June each year. Applications for the September 2022 open on Monday 12th April 2022.
https://www.housingdiversitynetwork.co.uk/mentoring/staff-mentoring-programme
Another way to seek support and meet people is to join a staff Diversity network in your workplace. Outside of your workplace you could join HouseProud a free network for LGBT+ people who work in social housing. You join as an individual, perfect if you are not yet comfortable being out in your own workplace.
Meet your new Steering Committee members!
2022
We've got a lot lined up for you
As we kick off 2022 with the hope to get back to a blended mix of online and in-person events (and maybe some Prides!) HouseProud is pleased to announce that we have some exciting new faces on our Steering Group Committee.
We're especially pleased that three of them work for organisations who haven't been on the steering committee before!
Joining as Male-identifying Co-chair is Jamie Hickling, (top right) a leader from the West London Mission (WLM)
The new Young Persons Officer is Harriet Profit (bottom left) who is a Lead Project Manager at Notting Hill Genesis.
Joining us to mastermind our amazing events is Puja Mitra, (bottom right) Diversity and Inclusion lead at the educational charity Ark, and you'll remember Puja from our event last year on building inclusive workplaces.
Our new Diversity and Inclusion role is filled by Dewbien Plummer (top left) who is Head of Housing, Strategy, Technology and Improvement at the Royal Borough of Greenwich
Jamie says, “HouseProud has been a real lifeline for me in terms of development opportunities and support networks. I’m pleased to be able to support the work of HouseProud as Co-chair and look forward to strengthening the unity of purpose over the next year'
We hope you will join us in welcoming them to your network!
This is the space to see what the next events are that you might like to join. A lot of our work relies on availability of speakers and if we're meeting in-person, premises, but this is the rough outline for what we have coming up for you..
All our Members and Affiliate Members receive emails before each event and becoming a member is easy - you just need to contact us and let us know that you'd like to join. If you identify as LGBT+ and work in social housing or care, then you can be a member. Straight allies or LGBT+ people working in other sectors are affiliate members.
February
March
We're working on an in-person Networking Evening for International Women's Day - Breaking the Bias - details very soon.
April/May
Following our members' feedback, we are terribly excited to launch four CPD Professional Development Sessions.
These will cover both personal development and social housing functions
The Summer
We are planning our presence at the Prides!
We are looking at Brighton Pride, Black Pride, Trans Pride, Bi Pride and Essex Pride
Has your employer signed up to the HouseProud Pledge yet?
We're really pleased to announce that we now have the following housing providers signed up to the HouseProud Pledge. This is our unique accreditation which aims to deliver lasting positive change for our LGBT+ residents and service users. Although many are at different stages of the Pledge, they are all showing the commitment to make this change. Not on the list? Want to know more?
Click this link
Clarion; Riverside; Quo Vadis Trust; Anchor; Notting Hill Genesis; Network; Irwell Valley; Sir Josiah Mason Trust; Royal Borough of Greenwich; Home Group; Homes for Lambeth; London Borough of Lambeth; Orbit; Mosscare St Vincents; L&Q; Swan; Onward Housing; Weaver Vale Housing Trust; Prospect Community Housing; Providence Row; Grand Union Housing Group; Great Places Housing Group
Let's make housing 'Dementia Out'
Bring Dementia Out is LGBT Foundation’s programme to address the challenges faced by LGBT+ people living with dementia and those who are supporting them. The aim of the programme is to address a lack of LGBT+visibility and awareness in care and housing services.
Bring Dementia Out provides free training to support dementia care and housing organisations to understand and address the challenges LGBT+ people living with dementia face.
Anecdotal evidence from Bring Dementia Out tells us that LGBT people living with dementia face particular challenges when accessing dementia care services and housing providers. These challenges include, but are not limited to; organisations are often heteronormative and cis-orientated, there are often issues arising around next of kin (even for married same sex couples) and other supporters being excluded from care decisions, and a return to being secretive about sexual and gender identity for fear of discrimination from care and housing providers. Trans people living with dementia in particular may not remember they have transitioned, or are wrongly gendered by care and housing providers.
Bring Dementia Out is able to provide support and guidance to a broad range of organisations working in the care and housing sectors to ensure they are confident to deliver on the needs of LGBT+ people living with dementia.
For further information or to book free training please contact andrew.gilliver@lgbt.foundation
HouseProud Stands with Everybody in the LGBT+ Community
In the light of the recent news that the LGB Alliance has been given charitable status in England and Wales, and the debate of Trans exclusion that this organisation has generated, HousePround would like to reiterate that it is an inclusive organisation for all members under the umbrella term LBGT+.
Our organisation is about support for minority groups represented by both sexuality and gender identity. Although there are distinct differences between the two, what the individuals all have in common is being a part of groups that have been marginalised by society and often discriminated against. Our mission is safe and equal environments for all LBGT+ staff who work in social housing and for all residents who identify as LBGT+ individuals.
For Trans Visibility Day let's discuss pronouns!
Bi Pride UK 2022
On Saturday 3rd September Bi Pride UK returns in person and online. Its mission is to create spaces where people who experience attraction beyond gender can be freely visible and celebrate themselves and their identities. It’s not enough to be ‘welcome’ at a Pride. We make up a very large proportion of the GRSD (Gender, Romantic and Sexual Diversity) community – many stats actually say we’re over half the community – and we deserve to be visible and celebrated in our own right.
Between ‘gay’ and ‘straight’, there are so many shades of attraction beyond gender. UK Bi Pride seek to create spaces for anyone who falls into that spectrum or thinks that they might.
The community is vibrant and vivid, and people adopt many different labels to identify themselves, or even choose not to use labels at all. Whether you use bi, bisexual, biromantic, pan, pansexual, panromantic, poly, polysexual, polyromantic, queer, fluid, heteroflexible, homoflexible, something totally different, a combination of these, or even no label at all, we’re here for you.
Register and join HouseProud in celebrating Bi Pride UK 2022
Register:
Please note you must register weather if you intend to attend in-person or online and registration is free.
https://www.outsavvy.com/event/9309/bi-pride-uk-2022#anchor
When:
Saturday, 3rd September 2022
2pm to 10pm
In-Person & Online
Where:
Queen Mary University Of London (Stop D, Mile End Rd, London E1 4NS
HouseProud featured as
National Housing Federation launches first ED&I report for the UK
HouseProud was especially proud to have been mentioned in the NHF ED&I report published this month. and available for download here
Housing Diversity Network and the NHF gathered evidence and experiences around equality, diversity and inclusion in the housing association workforce.
Insights are from a range of sources, from literature and data sources to more informal evidence, such as media pieces, organisational case studies and personal experiences. It focuses primarily on sources from the last 15 years (insights older than 15 years are legislative). Insights were loosely coded by protected characteristics in the Equality Act 2010.
The insights address the following questions, which they structured the report around:
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What is current landscape of equality, diversity and inclusion in the housing association sector?
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What are people’s experiences of equality, diversity and inclusion within the sector?
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What are the challenges that the sector faces with regard to equality, diversity and inclusion?
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Is there a need for change? If so, what?
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What can we learn from other whole- sector approaches